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Post by kunuma on Mar 31, 2011 0:27:08 GMT 1
I'd be interested in a few opinions.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2011 7:22:48 GMT 1
How confident you are in your own abilities? I have low self esteem apparently
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Post by trixiepony on Mar 31, 2011 10:51:33 GMT 1
A personal confidence, just being happy in your self.
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Post by kunuma on Mar 31, 2011 20:49:42 GMT 1
Now that is two interesting replies as it sort of backs up what I thought - to look at all those barking mad shows on TV at the mo where they take poor downtrodden women and just by doing their hair and getting them new clothes, transform their self confidence and give them in some cases a new life - it seems nowadays that self esteem equals how you look and dress. If that is the case, I have zero self esteem! Rosie you said about it being confidence in your own abilities though, so then if I was asked say, if I was good at looking after animals, I'd say, yes, I'm brilliant!! So I must have self esteem after all - but I've still got to convince those who say it matters what you look like!! Do you think clothes matter to the degree they seem to in these programmes, and to most women, according to the friend I was discussing it with!!!
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Post by Claire on Mar 31, 2011 21:20:36 GMT 1
I think self esteem depends on what is important to you. If you feel that looks and appearance are important in life then improving them will increase your self esteem. If you feel its money that is important then making lots of dosh will improve it. And vice versa of course! Society tells us that looks, money, posessions are important and most people agree and thus if they havent got them can have low self esteem. However if you dont care what society is telling you what you should be and should have you can value what you are good at. Depends on how important you feel society's value are to you as a person. Its a pretty big subject. I even did my pyschology dissertation at uni on a similar topic but wont bore you all with that here. Going back to the looks thing, I think that in our society looks = power for women in a similar way to money = power for men. So clothes and stuff can be important. I must admit I do feel better when I go out looking good than when I'm my normally scruffy self ;D The best advice to improve self esteem is to stop watching those crappy TV shows kunuma!!! ;D Or alternatively have a make-over ;D
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Post by kunuma on Mar 31, 2011 22:32:23 GMT 1
So is low self esteem jealousy? An inferiority complex? Should you feel as a member of society that you are a lesser being than a similar person who does have looks , money and possessions?? If you don't feel that way, are you really just kidding yourself??? Wish you would - I need some psychological back up here!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2011 7:27:51 GMT 1
I'm a complete scruff and I'm happy with that. I personally hate dressing up and feel silly if I do. That is probably down to having lack of self confidence more than anything. I'm very shy and hate being looked at or the centre of attention so if I'm scruffy no one bothers looking at me. I spent years in my first marraige trying to be someone I wasn't by dressing how people expected me to and I was very unhappy. Now I'm just me and if no one likes that then too bad! Life is too short to worry about things like that. Lordy, listen to me going on!
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